Miss Night's Marbles

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Because you asked: Ways to help THAT kid

on 24 November, 2014

Oh, my friends. I don’t think anything has ever been more daunting than writing a follow-up post to THAT kid. I never, ever, in a million years, dreamed of the response to that piece, and I’m still trying to figure out how I go back to writing about my dog

This is not the kind of post I would ever usually write, but I’ve had many comments and e-mails in the last few weeks, asking how you can help me, help THAT kid, help kids in general. I am speechless at your generosity and sincere desire to make a difference for children. So, folks, here are some options: the causes that are closest to my heart, and that, to me, make a real difference in children’s lives, every day.

THAT kid: How you can help

THAT kid: How you can help

Charitable Donations

Coppercreek Camp Memorial Scholarship Fund

Click the logo to visit the donation page.

Many of you know that for many years, I worked at Coppercreek Camp, a family-owned sleepaway camp in northeastern California. While it is not a camp specific to THAT kid, it is a place where THOSE kids typically do very well; many of our most “rockstar” campers and teen leaders were in fact THAT kid when they were home and at school. Camp is where I first fell in love with working with THOSE kids. Coppercreek offers a scholarship fund, designated for local children who would benefit from the camp experience.  I would be so honoured if you would consider donating to that fund. You can find more information here.

Kids Help Phone Walk So Kids Can Talk

Ever since the tragedy at Sandy Hook, I have participated in the annual  BMO Walk So Kids Can Talk: a 5km walk to raise funds for Kids Help Phone. Kids Help Phone is a 24-hour crisis phone line, available to children and youth who need help coping with everything from friendship issues to sexual abuse. It is staffed entirely by trained volunteers, and relies heavily on donations to maintain its services. My fundraising page is here. (Note that, while this is the page for last spring’s walk, you can still make donations. I will update the link as soon as the 2015 event is finalized.)


Amazon Affiliate Links

Some of you have also asked how you can help ME, and contribute to my ongoing professional growth and development, as well as to the continuation of THAT kid’s message. Let me first say that your generosity leaves me nearly speechless. How do I possibly respond appropriately? To that end, I have created an Amazon Affiliate account for both Canadian and US Amazon shoppers. It’s really easy: just use one of the links below (or any of the Amazon links on my site) to click through to Amazon, and a small percentage of ANY purchase you make will be added to my account. The funds I raise through Amazon Affiliates will be evenly split between donations to the two charities described above, and my own professional growth endeavours, and I will provide regular updates about the disbursement of the funds.

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My friends, from the bottom of my overflowing heart: thank you. I am so nervous about posting this, because truly, I am not expecting ANYTHING from you. But, if one of the results of going viral is that more of you might help more kids get programs and support they need, I’m willing to take the risk of you thinking me a sell-out.

I’ll take the risk for THOSE kids, for THESE kids, for OUR kids.

So much love;


9 Responses to “Because you asked: Ways to help THAT kid”

  1. Ellen Casey says:

    I am a grandmother’s who lives with THAT children and his mother. In our case, THAT children is ADDHD and Autistic. He’s getting lots of love and attention at home, but we don’t live where he can mingle with other children. For the most part, he’s a good kid. He wants to be friends!! I’m sorry that he’s still having trouble controlling himself. Some day soon, I hope his medication gets regulated correctly soon.

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  3. Christy says:

    I would also like to know how to help THAT kid, but I’m not in the classroom. I’m the parent of another child who is in THAT classroom. My child has been personally abused and bullied by this child. I have spoken with the teacher, principal, and district about my concerns. I would like to know how to help… do I advocate for more help, more funding, more aids, etc. I’m genuinely concerned and yet at the same time I want to protect my child from any more physical abuse.

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  6. Elodie says:

    I’m a french teacher (as a teacher living in France), your article about THAT child came up on facebook, and now I’m here, seeking ways to help THAT child. But not ways as you mean in this article, ways you use in your classroom to help him. I know I could do more to help THAT child but sometimes I’m too exhausted or to helpless to know how to react when she does something wrong, how to be here for him when I’m angry at him.

    • Josephine Finocchiaro says:

      Hi Elodie
      Just you asking that question is doing something! 🙂
      …In my work as a child and family psychiatric clinical nurse specialist, those that are a significant part of the world of “that child” such as people like yourself who care enough to remain a teacher despite the many challenges that doing so brings with it these days…
      can role model how to respond…(planting a little seed here and there) when their own emotions are triggered…
      One way that seems to work well for me in the heat of the moment within an intense family meeting for example…
      is to pause…
      long enough to breath deeply at least once so I can get through the emotion that was triggered within me (before reacting from a place of that emotion which then only perpetuates the same often leading to an implosion or explosion of emotion on someone’s part)…
      then choosing to respond from a place of heart…putting myself in child/teens shoes for a few moments…
      and asking myself What else is possible here? a few times…
      that alone can shift and sometimes diffuse the energy of the whole situation…
      just by holding that space of allowance for what transpired…
      and asking what else is possible…
      then softly and compassionately (and firmly if a directive is necessary to maintain safety) responding…
      to encourage a bit of dialogue…with soft (but firm if necessary) eye contact.
      The communication might be a word of encouragement to join in choosing differently or an apology if I inadvertently triggered the response within the child/teen…and then whatever directive is necessary…
      Crisis Prevention Institute has some wonderful strategies that can be taught to teachers within individual school settings.
      My hope is that I helped you in even a small way…and that more and more schools will choose to consult with trained CPI instructors like myself so that well-meaning teachers like yourself can be coached through the challenging moments that have occurred so all teachers are supported and cared for in doing their jobs.

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