I know it has been a long time since I wrote an Ask Miss Night column, and today’s post actually came to me “through the grapevine,” and is a little sensitive.
Through a dear #kinderchat friend, I have been in touch with a parent of a kindergarten aged child who is biologically a girl, but who identifies as a boy. Obviously, this is a difficult path for both Mom and child, and they have experienced some pretty significant rejection by other family members, friends, and their church community. Mom is looking for any resources, articles, links, support communities, books, to help her and her child feel less isolated and alienated as they negotiate this reality. She needs support for herself and her child, as well as resources to help the rest of her family, school, and community understand what it means to be trans-gendered.
If you ask me, she is a brave, strong, amazing mother, who would also benefit from hearing some supportive messages from educators and parents. ANY resources, contacts, suggestions you have would be most welcome, as this is outside of my area of expertise, and I don’t have any direct experience with young children who are transgendered.
I want to be clear that I am not looking for (and will promptly delete) any debate about the morality/legitimacy of transgendered children. I’d like us all to be able to deepen our understanding, while helping this mom and her child feel less alone. Please share any links and resources in the comments. If you’d like to pass something on directly to this mom, in a more confidential way, feel free to e-mail me, and I will pass on your stories and comments, back through the grapevine, to this Mom.
I know that the biggest, wisest, most generous, most open hearts on the whole internet are readers of this blog, and I KNOW we can give this mom and her child a safe harbour.